“She turned to face him. ‘What were we thinking?’ ‘We weren’t,’ he said. ‘We were in love.’”-from the The Best of Me by Nicholas Sparks
Who remembers saying these words or something similar to another person close to our heart? I do.
I have always been a secret fan of watching Sparks’s movies with Nights in Rodanthe being my favorite. However, it is not something I readily profess at parties. We all carry within us scars of close emotional bonds that have been broken or best forgotten, but not resolved, perhaps to never be resolved.
All we have to do now is simply delete the person from our smart phones, block their number, email, on every form of social media and it is like the person never existed and the complicated or unresolved situation can be swept away to the far corners of our mind ( I did not say heart, because as a neuroscience guy, it behooves me to point out that the heart does not feel, it is the brain or rather its manifestation- the mind).
As this story shows, in places where lives are intertwined, such as the deep south, digital media and smart phones don’t really hold sway when everyone you know, knows everyone else and it is in these small towns, that the best of Nicholas Sparks’s stories come from in my opinion. Having lived in Mississippi for a year, I found this sense of non-urbana America that held close ties close and where the depth of feelings were deeply felt amidst the small bbq joints and the many churches.
So, is there a person in your life that you have chosen to forget, or have been forgotten by, a relationship that needs to be resolved, or healed- reach out to that person and it is not easy to do so but nothing truly good in life has ever come easy. A rose is nothing without its thorns to protect it and that is true for most real life stories.
Update: Check out this beautiful song by Carolina Lane inspired by the book and movie The Best of Me.